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How To Build Self-Confidence as a Teen

Updated: Nov 11, 2022



Being a teenager can be challenging.


Teenagers are confronted with complex issues, and learning how to overcome them can tamper with their self-confidence.


According to Reachout, it is estimated that up to half of adolescents will struggle with low confidence levels during their early teenage years.


What is self-confidence?


Self-confidence is the belief of trust in your abilities, qualities, and judgment. Self-confidence is believing in yourself. Having faith in yourself to be what you aspire to become.


Every teenager should develop self-confidence. This is important because self-confidence will show in your dealings with people, in your school performance and anywhere else you find yourself.


If you are a teenager battling low self-confidence, don't beat yourself up. You can build this. It usually takes 8-12 weeks to make a habit, and all you have to do is take it one day at a time.


Here are some helpful things to do to build your self-confidence as a teen.



5 ways to develop self-confidence


1. Practise positive self-talk


Positive self-talk simply means talking positively about yourself. It is all about saying kind words to ourselves.


Positive self-talk can help reduce stress, and anxiety and certainly boost your self-confidence.


Here's what you should do; when those creeping little negative thoughts get into your head, change them to positive ones.


Form a habit of saying positive affirmations every day, preferably in the early mornings.


Here are some examples:

  • I am perfect just the way I am

  • I am enough

  • I stand up for what I believe in

  • I have courage and confidence

  • I can control what I believe in

  • I am open and ready to learn

  • I only compare myself to myself

  • Today is going to be an awesome day

  • I believe in myself and my abilities

  • My mistakes help me learn and grow.


2. Associate with those that treat you well


Developing your self-confidence also involves associating with people that treat you well and make you feel better about yourself.


Confident people understand when to leave anything that makes them feel bad including relationships.


You can't continue being in the company of those that look down on you, talk down on your achievements and expect your confidence to remain intact. Instead of boosting your confidence, it reduces it to a minimum. Confident people don't stay around


When you realize that your association brings you down instead of bringing you up, you either reduce your contact with such people or cut them off completely.



3. Avoid comparing yourself to others


Everyone is guilty of comparison.


At some point, we have wanted to either feel like we should act, dress, or behave like someone else.