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Updated: Nov 11, 2022



Being a teenager can be challenging.


Teenagers are confronted with complex issues, and learning how to overcome them can tamper with their self-confidence.


According to Reachout, it is estimated that up to half of adolescents will struggle with low confidence levels during their early teenage years.


What is self-confidence?


Self-confidence is the belief of trust in your abilities, qualities, and judgment. Self-confidence is believing in yourself. Having faith in yourself to be what you aspire to become.


Every teenager should develop self-confidence. This is important because self-confidence will show in your dealings with people, in your school performance and anywhere else you find yourself.


If you are a teenager battling low self-confidence, don't beat yourself up. You can build this. It usually takes 8-12 weeks to make a habit, and all you have to do is take it one day at a time.


Here are some helpful things to do to build your self-confidence as a teen.



5 ways to develop self-confidence


1. Practise positive self-talk


Positive self-talk simply means talking positively about yourself. It is all about saying kind words to ourselves.


Positive self-talk can help reduce stress, and anxiety and certainly boost your self-confidence.


Here's what you should do; when those creeping little negative thoughts get into your head, change them to positive ones.


Form a habit of saying positive affirmations every day, preferably in the early mornings.


Here are some examples:

  • I am perfect just the way I am

  • I am enough

  • I stand up for what I believe in

  • I have courage and confidence

  • I can control what I believe in

  • I am open and ready to learn

  • I only compare myself to myself

  • Today is going to be an awesome day

  • I believe in myself and my abilities

  • My mistakes help me learn and grow.


2. Associate with those that treat you well


Developing your self-confidence also involves associating with people that treat you well and make you feel better about yourself.


Confident people understand when to leave anything that makes them feel bad including relationships.


You can't continue being in the company of those that look down on you, talk down on your achievements and expect your confidence to remain intact. Instead of boosting your confidence, it reduces it to a minimum. Confident people don't stay around


When you realize that your association brings you down instead of bringing you up, you either reduce your contact with such people or cut them off completely.



3. Avoid comparing yourself to others


Everyone is guilty of comparison.


At some point, we have wanted to either feel like we should act, dress, or behave like someone else.


Be aware that too much comparison can lead to unhappiness and low self-confidence. When you constantly compare yourself to others, you are prone to negative thoughts.


To build your self-confidence, you have to stop comparing yourself with others. Focus on being better, and teach your mind to look away from comparisons.



4. Focus on your strengths


When you focus on too many things, you will not attain your best results. When this happens, you feel like you aren’t good enough or doing enough and this can tamper with your self-confidence.


Stop focusing on your weaknesses and focus on your strengths. Focus on what you know you do best. Doing this will help you do the best work and achieve the best results.


When you focus more on your strengths, you become more confident, energetic, and happy.



5. Help people


There’s a positive feeling you get when you help someone, especially strangers. These positive feeling impacts your self-image thereby building your self-confidence.


It costs nothing to show kindness. Give a lending hand to those in need. You can also be a volunteer for an organization.


There are huge rewards attached when you are a blessing to people.



Let's recap


Developing self-confidence helps tremendously increase your self-worth, reduce anxiety, and have healthier relationships.


5 ways to develop your self-confidence:


  1. Practice positive self-talk

  2. Associate with those that treat you well

  3. Avoid comparing yourself to others

  4. Focus on your strengths

  5. Help people especially strangers

Cheers to your growth!


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Everyone loves social media.


It's a medium to connect and communicate with friends and family, and also meet new people. So it's engaging. Extremely engaging.


Social media growth increases every day. According to Statistics, more than half of the world now uses social media. The average daily spent time using social media is 2hr 29 minutes.


It's tough resisting the urge to scroll through your feed. Especially when you have a picture uploaded and would like to check the number of likes and comments on the post. However, spending so much time on Social media can kill your productivity and leave you cranky, lazy, and unproductive.


In this post, I'll be telling you how to avoid social media distractions and take control of it.


Let's begin


How to beat Social Media Distractions


1. Create a schedule for social media


There is time for everything including social media. If you use the whole day scrolling through Instagram and Facebook feeds, watching pictures and videos without doing anything productive then you're threading the wrong path. Social media should have its own time. Let's see an example.


Your schedule can look like this:

  • I will do my homework from 5:30 pm - 6:15 pm, then check whatsapp messages from 6:30 - 6:50 pm.

  • I will attend classes from 8:00 am - 12:00 pm, then scroll through my Instagram feed during the 20 minutes break.

When you set a particular time for social media, stick to it. Be disciplined and understand that you're doing yourself a lot of good that your future self will thank you for. Also, ensure your social media time comes after doing something productive. Very Important.


2. Turn off Alerts and Notifications


Have you tried focusing on something essential either your assignments, study, or classes, then your phone vibrates? You check it and discover it's a Whatsapp message from a friend or relative that you can't resist. You have no choice but to reply to the message.


Or maybe it's an alert about an episode from one of your favorite channels on Youtube. You rush immediately to watch the video, forgetting the important thing you're doing. That's one of the disadvantages of turning your social media notifications on. Notifications help apps grab your attention.


Whenever you have an important task, I suggest you turn off the notifications and finish your task first. It will help you stay more focused.


For example, I turned off all my social media alerts because I discovered that I was getting addicted to social media. I can only respond to messages, watch videos and check updates when I'm using the app.


3. Control your App Usage


This is very helpful especially when you cannot leave an app on your own. You can set an app's limit. Once it's time, the app closes on its own. You can find this feature on your phone's settings.


This is one of the measures that work for me. I set my limit for each social media app to 30 minutes per day. If you want this to work for you, you have to be disciplined and make sure the app stays closed without extending the limit.


4. Try a Social Media Fast


Okay, I get it. This will be tough in the beginning.


But, trying this method will help you understand that you can be productive without social media. This helps tremendously when you have a tight schedule, during exams, or anytime you have an important task to work on. You can focus more on your task and stay clear of social media till you're done. You'll be surprised at what you achieve when you try this.


5. Create a quiet and distraction-free Place


It's difficult staying away from social media. However, you can stop yourself by creating a quiet place free from distractions. When you do this, make sure that your phone is far from you. Also, resist the temptation of leaving this place. You can do it whenever you have work or an assignment. It will not be easy in the beginning, but with time you will adjust.



Finally,


It's hard staying off social media. Thankfully, there are measures you can take to overcome the urge of staying longer than you should.


You can start by setting a social media schedule to set aside a particular time in a day for it. Turn off alerts and notifications to avoid getting distracted from what you're doing. Limit your app's usage to control the amount of time you spend on each app.


Try a social media fast to stay clear of social media for a particular time, maybe in hours, days, weeks, or even months. Lastly, create a distraction-free environment.

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According to statistics, 80%–95% of college students procrastinate at some level, while 50% consider it to be a problem.


Another study shows that 53% of high school students, 53% of undergraduate students, and 61% of graduate students are frequent procrastinators.


Procrastination is a huge factor that prevents you from getting the life you deserve. It's commonly found in the younger generation.


In this post, I will go into more detail about Procrastination and ways to overcome it.


Let's get started.



What is Procrastination?


Merriam-Webster defines procrastination as, "To be slow or late about doing something that should be done: to delay doing something until a later time because you do not want to do it, because you are lazy, etc".


Here's a simpler definition:


"Trouble persuading yourself to do the things you should do or would like to do."


When you struggle to do something you're supposed to do, then there's a high tendency to procrastinate. Everyone procrastinates.


For some people, procrastination occurs when they are stressed or overworked and decides to postpone their task. While others struggle with starting a task, so they always fall back to doing nothing.


Either way, procrastination is a big barrier. It makes you leave out the important things for meaningless things. This can lead to feelings of regret and guilt.



Reasons to Stop Procrastinating


Here are some of the reasons why you should try to overcome procrastination.

  • Procrastination ruins your productivity.

  • It leads to poor mental and physical health.

  • It damages your decision-making capacity.

  • It negatively affects your performance.

  • It leads to stress and anxiety.

Now that you're aware of the negative implications of procrastinating. Let's look at the 5 ways you can overcome it.



Ways to Overcome Procrastination


1. Manage your time wisely


I guess you are familiar with these popular quotes:

"Time is money" "Time waits for no one" and "Lost time is never found again."

Time is priceless. It is the most valuable commodity on earth. Using your time for irrelevant things when you have important things to do is a very bad decision to make.


When you use your time wisely, you can get more things done, and stay energized, and you will also have time left to have fun or do the things you enjoy.


Learn to manage your time wisely. Do the important things first. Don't overwhelm yourself with a long list of tasks to do. One technique I use is, picking the 3 most important tasks to accomplish for the day.


I stick to accomplishing them, and when I do, I give room for something else. Get a time management technique that works for you and stick to it.

2. Be disciplined


If you want to stop procrastinating, then you have to be disciplined. You need a lot of self-discipline to fight this. I've not seen anyone that overcame procrastination without self-discipline. It won't work.


If you've set aside some tasks to accomplish for a day, be disciplined enough to block out anything that will stop you.


Remember the reason why you need to finish that project, assignment, or any other important task. Don't succumb to making excuses, rather let self-discipline help you make the right choices.


Say No to excuses and distractions!


3. Plan your day


Always plan your day. Before you go to bed, write down everything you'll do the next day. Have a to-do list of all your tasks for the day. Remember, don't overwhelm yourself with a long list. Having a long list might cause you to procrastinate. Avoid it.


Organize your day. Schedule your tasks accordingly, and put the most important ones first. Set an alarm if possible to remind you of the time to start a particular task.

Don't fall for the temptation to use the snooze button. This is where having discipline comes into play. Make your day always count.


4. Have an Accountability Partner


Having an accountability partner will help you stay accountable. Your accountability partner can be your friend (procrastinators like you preferably), or even a close family member.

I mentioned having a friend who is also a procrastinator because you both will have to fight this together and stay accountable to each other. You can study together, discuss what you've done for the day, and also reward yourselves together. You'll end up enjoying yourselves in the process.


5. Reward Yourself

When you complete a task, reward yourself no matter how little. Buy something, watch a movie, go for a walk, etc. Do something you enjoy doing.

Here's a little secret; rewarding yourself is an opportunity to do those things that you love.


When you complete a task, you can reward yourself with either replying to messages on social media, watching a movie, buying yourself an ice cream or whatever it is that you enjoy. All you need to do is pick ONE reward for every completed task.


Got it? Great!



Let's recap


Procrastination is the reason you leave out the important things you want to accomplish to the irrelevant ones.


Here are the 5 ways you can overcome procrastination:

  • Manage your time wisely

  • Be disciplined

  • Plan your day

  • Have an accountability partner

  • Reward yourself

If you're a chronic procrastinator or you procrastinate a lot, don't beat yourself for it. Be nice to yourself and go get started now!


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